The distress

What do you do when you are scared?

I know that all of us have been scared, at one point or the other… That’s OK. It’s normal that from time to time we find ourselves in a situation that is unknown to us and that, for the time being, we don’t know how to handle. Believe me, that’s great, because you’re living!

Think about those people who say that they never feel scared. From my point of view they’ve set themselves in the comfort zone so deep that they don’t have any new experiences, they don’t grow. And believe me – they are more scared than us who face the fear directly. They fear the fear. And what kind of living is that? Would you rather live and face the uncertainty or live in a safe bubble?

How do you deal with fear?

I’m not going to lie. Many times I’ve been put in situations that my body reacts like it’s going to blow up at any point. Don’t get me started with my mind. Complete chaos! Sometimes the words ‘It’s going to be OK’ – just don’t work. The mind is focused too much on the emotion, that no rational explanation works. So, what to do in that moment?

1- I cry.

Seriously, CRY! Not because you’re weak, or incapable, or …I don’t know what kind of self destructive though comes to your mind. Ignore it! Cry! Let it out, don’t hold it in. Holding it in will many times create an even bigger problem.

2 – I write the heavy thoughts.

Write EVERYTHING! If your mind says ‘Oh’-write it down. If the next thought is ‘ Yes’ – write it. Trust me. It doesn’t have to make any sense! Your mind is in chaos! Sense is not there! And that’s OK. Sometimes, we need to let the chaos out in order to understand the meaning. Sometimes we need to get everything out of the messy closet in order to put everything back where it belongs. Don’t be afraid of your messy closet – don’t be afraid of your mind – don’t be afraid of yourself!

Sometimes…you are NOT OK…and that’s, believe it or not…TOTALLY OK. πŸ™‚

I would really like to hear you opinion on this topic. So, please don’t be shy in letting your thoughts out. You can comment in the comment section below, or you can message me privately via influentialmovement@gmail.com

I’m looking forward to hearing from you. πŸ™‚

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The Truth

What is the Truth?

The hard truth is: ‘It is hard for everyone’ – it sounds so, refreshing? That we’re not alone in this big and crazy world. And that our struggles are not in vain.

Yet, just as that feeling of relief comes, or as some would say, just as that feeling of ‘Oh, that’s how everyone has it, that’s how I’ll have it, and that’s that! Why should I change anything?’ – something follows that relief… To me, that statement is like yelling in my face: ”They’re unhappy, why should I be any different? ”

For any of you who’ve read the post ”Acceptance”, let me tell you – this is that ‘wise’ moment we’ve all been waiting for. Don’t let the widely acceptable thing turn out to be acceptable to you, just because it is acceptable for everyone else! You don’t have to live in misery!

As my mentor would say: ”How dare you consciously make a decision to let your life be miserable? Who are you to do such a terrible thing to yourself?”

Dear friends, please, when you see yourself walking the wrong path…Rebel! Rebel to that dying need to accept! Sometimes, we need to make ourselves do the right thing.

As I’ve figured out, there is no ‘Ideal situation’, nor an ‘Ideal way to figure what’s the right path’. But I strongly believe that every single one of us has that basic ‘Right and Wrong’ scale, build up in our mind, and that helps us weight the standards.

I strongly believe that we all know what’s right! πŸ™‚

So, Rebel! Trust me, there is liberation in that as well! πŸ™‚ And isn’t that also refreshing?

Thank you! ❀

I also believe that we’re all different people, with different life experiences – so, as such I would really like to hear your advice to me (and the rest of the community). The idea of this blog is that everyone can be a teacher, and a student. To turn this little space on the internet into a Growing Community. So, what would your advice be on this matter?

Who knows, maybe some (or all) of your comments expand my (or someone else‘s) way of thinking. πŸ™‚ Everything is possible – shall we agree that this, is acceptable! πŸ˜€