We’ve all been there. You know? A situation that we wish it can go away because it’s stupid. Yeah… We have our own principals and values. We don’t wish to let them go. Why? Because they mean something to us and it’s something that guides us through life. If we let go of thing that guide us, what are we left with? An endless wondering and letting other people dictate what we should do, when and how. And nobody likes that. Nobody likes to feel like Nobody.
We have three situations that can imply here.
- Both sides don’t want to give up an idea that the other side should change their beliefs.
- One side is with an opinion in the first example and the other accepts that people have different opinions and should accept those differences.
- Both sides agree that they disagree and still don’t see their differences as something that will ruin a relationship.
What is this you ask? Well this is You. In one situation or the other you have been playing every single one of these roles with someone. At some point in your life you have been the Good and the Bad guy.
Believe it or not. You can’t always get it right.
So, sorry folks. The answer to this questions is not easy. Anybody who tells you that it is – lies to you just to, I don’t know, maybe get some money out of you. Life is complicated and messy and it doesn’t have a one way street for everything. Relationships and people interactions require constant attention and care.
You need to know what your goal is.
If your goal is to make that relationship work – choose No 3. Talk about your differences and accept what comes. Remember that person besides you isn’t your enemy. Accept that person for who they are.
Accept yourself, accept the other person, accept that your opinions are different, accept that you can change.
If you’ve come here to find some magical easy fix problem which will help you manipulate other people in believing what you wish them to believe – sorry, you’re in the wrong place. And you’re in the wrong set of mind, with wrong set of beliefs and values.
If you wish to make your life easier – you need to learn and let go of stupid things. You need to understand which ”fights” are smart and which are not. And that requires experience and many, many, many mistakes. Don’t be afraid of them – if you’re with the right person, who also chooses No.3, you’ll be just fine.
So, choose smart and kind.
Be smart and kind.
Do smart and kind.
Thank you for reading, again. And we’ll talk soon! 🙂